[Ofrdcple]

You know at first glance I thought this was a BS post, and hope is. But Funcple makes a point. We had someone very, very close to us in a relationship with someone that was unstable like this. "He" was a drug and alcohol abuser. She was a good person that was duped into marriage. When he got the marriage papers signed, and children he turned around like jeckyl and Hyde. He would get really messed up and pull shit like this...Most of it we learned about after he killed himself. At the time of the abuse she was too scared and embarrassed to let on.

He used to make threats that he was going to kill the Mrs and I, because we assisted her into getting out of this situation. The scary thing is he was unstable enough to kill himself. I don't think he would have had a problem doing something to us if the right chance came along.

She is a great mother and a wonderful person. The Mrs and I often discuss how she got herself into that. And there is no clear-cut answer. All of us have weaknesses. Most of us refuse to look at them, especially when it is easier too look at other's faults.

So I have to completely and totally agree that, “Abused people are not sane. They're abused." If there is any truth in this original post, you certainly don't need to be on a swinger’s board. A support group, the police, or some kind of mental health expert is whom you need to be talking to.

As for the rest of the board, I just thought it was a good place to post our experience with a truly abusive unstable person. If we hadn't been so close to the situation we wouldn't have believed what this guy was doing. I think sometimes when we are sputtering through life, we tend to get into a groove and think everyone is basically the same...But there are "freaks" out there. We knew one too well.