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Originally Posted by pghcpl43some The biggest problem I have is the whole jelousy issue or he is pleaseing my wife more than I could and she is really into more than how she is while we have sex. |
If you cannot go into swinging with your wife's pleasure being just as important and pleasurable for you...i.e. you are receiving just as much pleasure and enjoyment from watching your wife really into it as you would be if you were the one giving her the pleasure....then you really need to take a step back and do some more talking. Swinging has to be about the both of you.
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we are both are concered that if this does happen that she will like it so much that our sex life will suffer because she would want my best friend to be present.
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Possible but...not very probable. Your sex life should be at the top of its game before you even consider swinging...if there are problems with it, fix those first before venturing into bringing someone else into the bedroom.
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I am looking for some advice that will help ease my worries and make this into a reality for me cause I would really like to see my wife with another guy. Any help or suggestions would be appreciated. I sugegsted to her that we attend a locl swingers club to talk with other people but she said she would feel more uncomfortable in going to a place like that but she might consider.
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Take the time and both of you read as many threads here on the board as you can. Ask questions if you can't find an answer to something you want to know.
Don't rush it. Talk, talk, talk and then talk some more. Regardless of how silly the question may be, it still needs asking and discussed between the two of you.
A club is a good way to get started. It allows you to sit back and watch other people interact with each other. I would suggest an off-premise club (no sex allowed on premise) for a first visit.
And...bringing a friend into your play time really isn't a good idea...it can work but unless you are absolutely sure of yourselves and your friend it could blow up in your face.
Teresa