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Originally Posted by pghcpl43some My wife and I have started to discuss the possibilty of having a 3 some with my best friend for starters then slowly move into swinging for about 4 months now. Now my best friend is a male and he really thinks my wife is attractive and hot looking. My wife really wants to try it with another male because she has only been with her first bf and me so she wants to expierence with someone else while I am present. The biggest problem I have is the whole jelousy issue or he is pleaseing my wife more than I could and she is really into more than how she is while we have sex. we are both are concered that if this does happen that she will like it so much that our sex life will suffer because she would want my best friend to be present.I am looking for some advice that will help ease my worries and make this into a reality for me cause I would really like to see my wife with another guy. Any help or suggestions would be appreciated. I sugegsted to her that we attend a locl swingers club to talk with other people but she said she would feel more uncomfortable in going to a place like that but she might consider. |
I am going to Dito what everyone else here said about swinging with friends. They are right, its easier to make friends with people you swing with than to make swingers with people you are friends with. IMHO this hold especially true for those new to the scene. For example, lets say you start swinging, find out it isn't your cup of tea, but you and your wife walk away from it with no hard feelings. How are you going to feel about your friend? Don't just jump at the answer. Think about it. Now, think about what if you had been with others you might never have to see again? Easier to deal with maybe?
I wanted to touch on something else you said though about jealousy issues. Talk to your wife about them. Tell her your insecurities BEFORE you play with others. And take comfort in the fact that what you are feeling is probably very very normal.
My husband and I both had these insecurities starting out. I even started to have second thoughts after our first encounter. What we did was talk it out and put our fears to bed. We both realized we loved each other, and that while the actual act of sex with each person would be different, making love with him would surpass all others. Having sex with other men is fun and don't get me wrong, I like it. But I love my husband. He knows all my buttons from memory and can have me shrieking in less time than it takes to open a can of soda. Other men may find some of my buttons, but not all of them at one time, and they definetly aren't going to love me like my man does.