[Thrax]

I'll Dito what Intuition said about the friends thing and about clubs.

From your original post I got the impression that you two have never been to a club, but in your Board profile you list a favorite club. Have you gone there? Or did you list that club just because it is the closest to your area?

If you do decide to visit a club to talk to real live swingers, I suggest you do a little homework first. There are at least three on-premise clubs, each within about an hour or so drive from Pittsburgh. All three are "safe" for newbies -- No means No in each place -- but each club has a unique vibe and varying facilities. You should check out their websites and read the club descriptions in detail, view pics of their rooms and amenities, and if you can find them, read reviews of each club. That way you can choose an environment in which you are both more likely to feel comfortable enough to engage people in conversation.

You could also expand your club-visiting range to Eastern Penna. or maybe the Columbus, Ohio, area.

There are club reviews on this Board -- see the Club Listings on the toolbar above -- or you can find listings on NASCA and other sites.

If you both eventually want to do the club visit thing, I think it would be wise, and more comforting, to pick a place that appeals to you and won't make you feel quite so nervous as first time visitors.

But I must warn you, although there are many friendly people at on-premise clubs, YOU will most likely have to initiate conversations. Most couples would probably be very happy to talk with you for awhile about their experiences, their club, and give you tons of advice, but people won't always approach you and introduce themselves. If you do end up at a club, tell the owner(s)/host(s) who give you the tour that you are not yet swingers but have a lot of questions, and maybe they can point you to knowledgable and friendly couples for you to talk to.

Good luck!

Thrax