[miamicgcouple]

I think to a certain extent, the problems you described are things you can work out with fantasy before you actually make the move into sex with other people. When I first started to fantasize with my GF about her hooking up with other men, it began slowly and evolved organically. Initially, my fantasy revolved ONLY around her giving head to another guy. We talked about this a lot in bed and eventually, as that particular fantasy became more standard in our sex life, it fleshed itself out.

When we first actually talked about playing with other people (over a year ago and we just did it for the first time last week) the boundaries I wanted were totally different than what they were when we actually hooked up. At first I said, only oral sex, no intercourse, no kissing, must come with me etc. But as our fantasies progressed, so did our boundaries. By the time we actually hooked up with other people, not only was I OK with, but I was actively fanstasizing about another man making her come, another man going down on her, kissing her, etc.

I think the main thing is to be confident that no one knows you wife/SO better than you, no one knows how to push her buttons the same way, etc. I absolutely loved having my GF come while another man was inside her, but I also really enjoyed the fact that she only came because I told the guy how to rub her clit the right way. If you are in a healthy, committed, relationship with an active and multi-orgasmic sex life, then adding someone else in the mix should only make things better. If you're legitimately worried that you're not pleasing your wife well enough solo, then I would make a big push to improve your one-on-one sex life before bringing someone else into the mix. If you know in the back of your head that you are the best sex she's had (and if you're in love and have good sexual communication, you should be) then watching her be pleasured by another man should turn you on, not make you jealous.