 Re: I'm sick and tired of this. Please offer me some advice.
You’re obviously an intelligent guy so any advice will probably only be emphasizing what you already have some ideas about.
It sounds like you are afraid that if you put your foot down concerning your needs, she will either say, “Fine, where done swinging altogether” or “Fine, I’ll go do it on my own and you can find a new wife/gf”. But at the same time, it is driving you nuts doing business as usual.
If she is enjoying things how they are, and you haven’t asserted your needs, why would she change? Fair or not fair is not much of a concern to me. What is important is y’alls happiness. If you guys are doing something that is making one of you unhappy, then change it. Discuss the alternatives and make a decision.
If after a discussion one of you flip-flops on what you said, have another discussion about flip-flopping and decide on alternatives around that (ie. “If you get pissed because I did something that you said was ok before, then we need to stop involving ourselves in that kind of situation”).
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