It amazes me how women still think they will be ok to go out to lunch with a man they never met and assume that they will be ok just because it is public.
I teach self defence to women and I ask questions about what would you do in this or that situation. You could knock me over with a feather some of the answers they give. any wonder more of them are not raped or killed.
A very good friend of mine who I teach karate to was attacked outside of the youth center in town here while the parents were picking up their children. He came at her with a sword. Ya people a real sword. cut her face up and ran her through before any of the parents could react. This is around dinner hour, in a parking lot with several people around.
YOU ARE NOT SAFE. DO NOT MEET THIS GUY ALONE.
Lunch could go well. HAve your nice nice and go home. Did he follow you? Does he now know where you live.
I don't want to scare you, but come on this is your life we are talking about. If he is real then he will wait until your bf comes home. If he is insulted by this and cant understand why you want to protect yourself take that as a cue to high tail it out of there. Any guy worth his fabric will respect your bounderies.
If you do choose to meet with him. Alow him to leave first. Watch him drive away. Then go to your car. Park infront of the doors to the cafe.
I may sound paranoid, but being a selfdefence instructor I have heard some real scary stories.
Even I would not meet with someone I only knew from the internet alone. My niece likes to tell people her Aunt can kill a man 6 different ways with a popcycle stick. Not sure when I learnt that trick, but I can be very dangerous. But I would rather NOT get myself in a situation that I have to use what I learnt. I hope I never have to hit anyone outside a ring.
Be smart about this. I will stop now.
I just don't feel good about this.
Your friend,
Prettylady
ps if you don't heed my advice and you go and find yourself in trouble, DO NOT KICK HIM IN THE BALLS. Stomp down on the outside of his knee and break it.
As long as we have been trying to kick boys in the balls, boys have been protecting them. You wont land a kick there on someone trying to attack you.
OK now I will stop. Sorry.