The Swingers Board - View Single Post - He wants to meet privately without my BF

ohash01 · 08-05-2006, 11:48 PM

My BF and I have been on Swing Lifestyle for a while now, and have had one really good really positive experience. I'm mainly the one that checks our messages and responds, but we always talk if I find someone interesting.

A couple messaged us a while back and I told BF I was going to chat with them. The profile was based mainly around the wife who loves to be with other women while the men watch...(I have never done this, but really really want to!) but the men aren't allowed to participate. We chatted with the couple as a couple a few times, agreed that we were interested, but have been too busy to stay in communicado lately. Well - 2 nights ago the husband Yahoo chats me alone. Which is fine...BF is completely okay with me chatting with only one of the other partners.

The problem is that he now wants to get together with JUST me. Tomorrow. While BF is out of town. He says no sex...nothing like that...just lunch somewhere and talking. He says he kind of "filters" the women for his wife. Shouldn't the wife be doing that? I don't want him to get mad though if I say no. I'm afraid he'll go back and tell his wife that he's not okay with me. His wife is really very beautiful and I'm very interested in having my first F-F experience with her.

I'm not sure if I think he's trying to cheat (I know that she has cheated on him in the past)...or if he really does just want to hang out. I have only guy friends...BF has no problem with me hanging out with guys alone...I don't know though. This just seems a little fishy to me. What do you think? My gut doesn't feel funky about the couple...just about this one situation. I told him it'd be cool if he brought a signed permission slip from his wife. Haha.

08-05-2006, 11:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
ohash01 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 535 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	He wants to meet privately without my BF - HELP! My BF and I have been on Swing Lifestyle for a while now, and have had one really good really positive experience. I'm mainly the one that checks our messages and responds, but we always talk if I find someone interesting. A couple messaged us a while back and I told BF I was going to chat with them. The profile was based mainly around the wife who loves to be with other women while the men watch...(I have never done this, but really really want to!) but the men aren't allowed to participate. We chatted with the couple as a couple a few times, agreed that we were interested, but have been too busy to stay in communicado lately. Well - 2 nights ago the husband Yahoo chats me alone. Which is fine...BF is completely okay with me chatting with only one of the other partners. The problem is that he now wants to get together with JUST me. Tomorrow. While BF is out of town. He says no sex...nothing like that...just lunch somewhere and talking. He says he kind of "filters" the women for his wife. Shouldn't the wife be doing that? I don't want him to get mad though if I say no. I'm afraid he'll go back and tell his wife that he's not okay with me. His wife is really very beautiful and I'm very interested in having my first F-F experience with her. I'm not sure if I think he's trying to cheat (I know that she has cheated on him in the past)...or if he really does just want to hang out. I have only guy friends...BF has no problem with me hanging out with guys alone...I don't know though. This just seems a little fishy to me. What do you think? My gut doesn't feel funky about the couple...just about this one situation. I told him it'd be cool if he brought a signed permission slip from his wife. Haha.