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Originally Posted by mincup Yeah it does, very good feedback. We are catholic by the way however not practicing. Your information if very usefull. Do you think I would need to worry about her farlling in love. I mean I'm perfectly comfortable with it, but from what I have told you she said does it sound like there is risk there. I mean I wouldn't think so because we have such a great marriage. But I would be interested in your input on it. |
It's a funny thing that I've learned: problems related to love are only problems if you allow them to be. When someone feels slighted by someone else's actions, when that other person had no intention of ever harming him, then the injury is merely a figment of the "victim's" imagination. If you are comfortable with her being in love with other people too, then that's fine. The only question that remains is whether SHE feels it's okay. Some people may
want to live this way, but feel it is morally wrong to do so. Have you and your wife discussed polyamory as a possibility?
You two can make up whatever rules you want for your marriage. It belongs to you, and no one else. So be brave and take a chance! MAKE your marriage into something that makes sense for the two of you, and if it doesn't harm either of you in any way, and it doesn't degrade the marriage, then I can't see why God would be upset about that. My feeling is that the work we have done, all the colouring outside the lines we did, has made our marriage stronger, deeper and more meaningful. This honours God, and is a closer definition of a holy marriage than any of the cookie cutter crap the church can come up with.
Sort of like the parable of the talents. The master of the house entrusts various amounts of money (the talents) to his servants to invest. One servant invests the money wisely, and doubles it. The master, upon returning, is pleased and rewards his servant by entrusting him with more responsibility. Another servant, however, buried his share in the ground. When the master returned, the servant returned the money, penny for penny, exactly as it was given to him. The master took away the money (and the responsibility) and gave it to the servant who had invested his share wisely. Marriage = the money that is entrusted to us, the servants. When we prove that we are able to manage what we are given wisely and responsibly, we are not punished for it, but rather rewarded.
Please understand that this is merely my personal opinion. It works for me, but may not be right for others.