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daniel Flynn · 07-31-2006, 12:09 PM

Hi Tommy, and very sorry to hear about the situation you are in. Any type of event of this sort can have a catastrophic impact on one's life. Unfortunately it takes TWO to make any type of relationship work, but only ONE to derail the entire thing.
I have worked as a Behavioral Thearpist, so of course I would suggest to BOTH of you, that if there is anything left in this relationship, as far as committment and honesty, and COMMUNICATION go, well then seriosly consider going to a very good Marriage Counselor. Perhaps they can further explore the issues you have raised, and more importantly esplore why she is doing what she is, and the REAL reasons behind it.
You shouldn't play the blame game card on yourself, because the underlying issues in her behavior were already in place, before you two ever considered the swinging thing.
At any rate, if she is considerate enough of your feelings and mantains any real hopes of reviving this relationship, then do head to the therapist. If not, then the only other options are to end it and move on, as you are both young, and this may be a learning experience albeit a very painful one. Good luck!

07-31-2006, 12:09 PM	#13 (permalink)
daniel Flynn Registered Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 7 Location: Albuquerque, New mexico Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:danielandamyflynn	Re: Losing my girlfriend. Help! Hi Tommy, and very sorry to hear about the situation you are in. Any type of event of this sort can have a catastrophic impact on one's life. Unfortunately it takes TWO to make any type of relationship work, but only ONE to derail the entire thing. I have worked as a Behavioral Thearpist, so of course I would suggest to BOTH of you, that if there is anything left in this relationship, as far as committment and honesty, and COMMUNICATION go, well then seriosly consider going to a very good Marriage Counselor. Perhaps they can further explore the issues you have raised, and more importantly esplore why she is doing what she is, and the REAL reasons behind it. You shouldn't play the blame game card on yourself, because the underlying issues in her behavior were already in place, before you two ever considered the swinging thing. At any rate, if she is considerate enough of your feelings and mantains any real hopes of reviving this relationship, then do head to the therapist. If not, then the only other options are to end it and move on, as you are both young, and this may be a learning experience albeit a very painful one. Good luck!