[Mike and Jan]

As you're finding out, there are a lot of men and women who enjoy watching their spouse with someone elese.

I think that, if she's interested in doing it, that once she realizes this and knows it's your fantasy and that you'll really enjoy it too that she'll feel more comfortable giving it serious consideration.

I only suggest that you find someone that you're both very comfortable with. (The search can be a long one and will be a real part of the fun.) Then go very, very slowly getting comfortable with each little flirting step.