 Re: Seeing wife with another man
Welcome mincup. There is a good passage on this in the FAQ section titled "How do I convince my partner to swing?"
Basically, it has to be something that is appealing to both of you. You can't make someone swing. They have to want to swing. There are many issues why some may not want to: jealousy, feeling dirty about having sex with others, worrying about what you'll think of her afterward, worrying about why you would want her to, and many other fears or concerns.
The best thing to do is just talk to her about it. Maybe invite her to read this board on her own. I say this because I know virtually nobody likes having somebody looking over their shoulder, and her doing it alone will allow her to read what she needs to, not just what you want her to.
That will open-up the line of conversation. Whether or not she ever actually wants to pursue it further is her choice, but at least you will have discussed it fully and will know where each other is coming from.
Mr. WS
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