MrsVan

You all have said some interesting comments concerning this topic and much of what you all have said makes sense. Good friendships are very hard to find when 4 people connect so well and this couple for us was one of those that we all had so much in common. I agree with the comments of "the honeymoon stage is over and now it is time to look for something new" and I can understand that. When you first meet a couple that everyone clicks with things feel great, then you get comfortable with them and then it just doesn't seem as fun anymore.

I guess the frustrating thing for us is that we have not asked this couple to be exclusive with us as we are still trying to find other couples that we can play and have a good time with. For us it is the point that if you say that you enjoy the friendship (even out of bed) why would you treat your friends in the way that you have. The continual making plans and cancelling them gets old real quick. It seems that it would be easier as we are all adults but I still feel like in this lifestyle that we are in high school all over again and even adults do not know how to handle more than one set of friends.

So those who have come across this situation with those friends, did you just distant yourself from them like we are starting to do or did you say all together that it is time to move on and just give up on what was there? I think that for us the hardest part because MrVan and I enjoy our friendships and we take them seriously and we hate to brush off any of our friends (even our vanilla friends) so for us to just give up doesn't seem like it is the right thing to do but in our minds we are thinking it is for the best as we do not need the drama.

Thanks to everyone who has posted messages on this and if you have come across this, please share your story and how you handled it. Just to get some insight from all of you would help us find what we think is best.

MrsVan