MrsVan

Hello everyone! My topic today is regarding the friends made in the lifestyle and how to know if they have become TRUE friends or not. MrVan and I met this couple back at the beginning of the year in which all four of us hit it off really well and it seemed like we knew each other for a very long time. We have played with the couple numerous times and even got together with all our children just to hang out at the pool and our kids even seemed to become really good friends. As many of you may know, MrVan and I are new to the lifestyle just this year. This couple has helped us get comfortable with the lifestyle and help us in finding our way as to what rules we have and how we would handle each situation that comes up in the lifestyle.

The problem lately is that it seems as though the couple continues to ask us to do things and then they cancel on us, or we all agree to get together and then at last minute they cancel. It seemed as if things were going well between us all but now we feel as if the couple has lost interest. It is not that we are upset about this as we are greatful for all that they have helped us through, but our problem is that it feels as if they get together with us because they FEEL they HAVE to and that is not the case. When problems have arised between us all, MrVan and I have been honest with them regarding the problem and talking it over with them. However it feels as if they are not being honest with us.

We all were to go camping together (just the adults) last weekend and then at the last minute they wanted to change plans. We all decided to go to a club on Saturday night but I felt as if they really did not want to be there. They both have seemed very distant from us lately.

The situation is that we truely enjoy just their friendship without the extra benefits and hate to loose the friendship that we have created. Our thoughts tell us to just hang it up and loose the friendship. We have stopped contacting them right now and just leave it up to them to make the next step, but this doesn't quite feel right either.

Has anyone come across this in the lifestyle and how have you handled the situation? Does anyone have any suggestions or ways that we can approach this with the other couple or do we just give up trying?

Thanks,

MrsVan