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OnHArry · 07-28-2006, 12:25 PM

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1. For those that have played in both same room, and separate rooms, have you noticed that the sex is better in separate rooms when you are both able to give 100% to your partner?

Frankly I have had great sex both ways, this is the male talking by the way. However we tend to prefer seperate room for the reasons you mentioned, ie that the opposite male is so into watching his wife that he tends to do a superficial job with my wife. Also the who issue abouty performance is a problem to, and we find where performance is an issue seperate rooms definitly work much better. Also as the male I prefer it because I do not feel any guilt about lavishing attention on my partner of the moment. So by and large both work but seperate works better.

2. For those of you who are into watching your partner, how do you accomplish that and still give the attention to your swing partner that is needed in order for it to be a good experience for all?

Knowing I love watching my wife with other guys, who doesn't, she will often do fairly intense foreplay like oral with him in the hottub and so on, prior to going elsewhere. Also when she is in the depths of passion with another, just hearing her moan in the next room is good enough, I have a vivid imagination, and that alone often works to stimulate me to bigger and better thigs lol. For example this one time in band camp, but seriously, I had finished with the lady I was with and was softly massaging and carressing her naughty bits, and I heard the moans and groans in the other room, well that got me up again, and as a result the lady and I went on to do more. They finished and heard us going and that got them going again it was a good night.

3.If you were in a position where your swing partner is paying so much attention to their spouse that it is not working for you, what would you do to improve the situation?[/QUOTE]

Oddly enough, or maybe not so oddly, with us that has only ever happened with the male of the other couple, maybe it is a womanly thing, or maybe women have a better attention span, but I have never had the lady more into what her hubby was doing, it is always the hubby for some reason. As to my wife she simply grinned and bore it, but if they did not want seperate rooms next time then it was goodbye.

Now there is something funny we experienced with one couple. They were great in that they can entertain at home, and they are both giving and very compatible with us outside the bed, BUT he has performance issues and has difficulty getting hard enough to penetrate, and yet they insist on doing same room, but of course my wife gets little out of it as aresult, what do you folks think of that?

07-28-2006, 12:25 PM	#16 (permalink)
OnHArry Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 33 Location: Ontario Status: couple	Re: Why same/seperate room play. [quote=good times] 1. For those that have played in both same room, and separate rooms, have you noticed that the sex is better in separate rooms when you are both able to give 100% to your partner? Frankly I have had great sex both ways, this is the male talking by the way. However we tend to prefer seperate room for the reasons you mentioned, ie that the opposite male is so into watching his wife that he tends to do a superficial job with my wife. Also the who issue abouty performance is a problem to, and we find where performance is an issue seperate rooms definitly work much better. Also as the male I prefer it because I do not feel any guilt about lavishing attention on my partner of the moment. So by and large both work but seperate works better. 2. For those of you who are into watching your partner, how do you accomplish that and still give the attention to your swing partner that is needed in order for it to be a good experience for all? Knowing I love watching my wife with other guys, who doesn't, she will often do fairly intense foreplay like oral with him in the hottub and so on, prior to going elsewhere. Also when she is in the depths of passion with another, just hearing her moan in the next room is good enough, I have a vivid imagination, and that alone often works to stimulate me to bigger and better thigs lol. For example this one time in band camp, but seriously, I had finished with the lady I was with and was softly massaging and carressing her naughty bits, and I heard the moans and groans in the other room, well that got me up again, and as a result the lady and I went on to do more. They finished and heard us going and that got them going again it was a good night. 3.If you were in a position where your swing partner is paying so much attention to their spouse that it is not working for you, what would you do to improve the situation?[/QUOTE] Oddly enough, or maybe not so oddly, with us that has only ever happened with the male of the other couple, maybe it is a womanly thing, or maybe women have a better attention span, but I have never had the lady more into what her hubby was doing, it is always the hubby for some reason. As to my wife she simply grinned and bore it, but if they did not want seperate rooms next time then it was goodbye. Now there is something funny we experienced with one couple. They were great in that they can entertain at home, and they are both giving and very compatible with us outside the bed, BUT he has performance issues and has difficulty getting hard enough to penetrate, and yet they insist on doing same room, but of course my wife gets little out of it as aresult, what do you folks think of that?