1. For those that have played in both same room, and separate rooms, have you noticed that the sex is better in separate rooms when you are both able to give 100% to your partner?
MrsVan and I just experienced our first seperate room experience this weekend, so this is based on just one experience.
We were at a club with some friends of ours that we have been seeing now since we started swinging back in January. We feel very comfortable with them and it was just natural. In addition to this, the husband and MrsVan did not want to be in the very open area of the play room, and the wife and I did, so we went with it. MrsVan and I spoke at length about the situation over the next few days and one thing that we both agreed on, was that seperate room allowed us to be able to give complete attention to our playmate, which made the encounter seem that much more intense. Could it have been the fact that it was our first time? Sure...would we do it again, probably, but same room will almost always be our preferred option. Not to mention that we really would need to have a good comfort level with our friends before trying this again.
2. For those of you who are into watching your partner, how do you accomplish that and still give the attention to your swing partner that is needed in order for it to be a good experience for all?
This one is very tricky...for me in particular, I don't just like to watch MrsVan, but I do like to be able to reach out and touch her during play when it is possible. For the most part though, I will try to watch MrsVan in bits and pieces and and only for short periods of time. The rest of the time I try to concentrate on my partner, which can be difficult if MrsVan is getting particularly vocal.
3.If you were in a position where your swing partner is paying so much attention to their spouse that it is not working for you, what would you do to improve the situation?
For us, since we ourselves are still "newbies" I think the first couple of times we would most likely just ignore it and see if it continued. If it did continue, then we would most likely talk with the couple. We have found in our brief stint so far, that when we have an issue, we just put it out there to the couple. If they can't handle talking about it, then we really don't want to continue a friendship with them anyways. If they can talk about it then we figure out what the problems are together and we all move forward.
-Van