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Originally Posted by Chicup Now as a non-poly, but someone who has thought of it in a possitive light and could see us doing it under the right circumstances I'm a bit confused on one point.
I figured a poly relationship would be more 'equal' in terms of love etc. More like a group marriage, but from the comments here it seems a lot of polys break up after a time. The feeling I'm getting is that its more like 'really good friends who fuck' than a true group marriage.
I guess I felt a poly relationship would be a long lasting one, much like a conventional marriage should be. |
I always thought the same, too. But as Mrs. WS and I have delved deeper into the poly lifestyle because of many of our poly friends we have found that there seems to be a primary relationship (just like in swinging) and then the added person, who never really is on the same level as the primary partner.
We've seen many polys go through several boyfriend/girlfriend situations. They tend to label themselves as polys though because these are not emotionless sex, but rather relationships with real feelings of caring. Whether you could label it the same kind of love as we feel for our spouse (or they do) is a different matter and open to allot of discussion, but there definitely is passion beyond lust there.
I would say that as far as Mrs. WS and I go poly, that is it. We have no aspirations to have someone move in (yeah, explain that one to the 15-year old
), but that doesn't mean that we haven't developed a real relationship with a single; a relationship where we both are friends with this person and have played together as well as one of us seperate.
Mr. WS