[KittKatt]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

I feel there really are the two disctinct schools of thought on this: some swingers that freak-out at the mention of any emotions whatsoever and some polys that would never call themselves swingers. Yet these two groups also coincide sometimes. It's like two circles just barely overlapping, you have swingers on one side and polys on the other, and a select few overlap. What some swingers do may be closer to poly and what some polys do may be closer to swinging.

Hi WesternSwing,
Thanks you for your post . Exactly, and what we see is that each "group" are basically wonderful, open minded people, looking to "add" something that the vanilla life doesn't have.

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

I feel that Mrs. WS and I fit into the overlap area. We don't carry-on poly relationships with everybody we swing with, but it has happened once or twice in the past. And this relationship served its purpose well at the time.

So true, just as with meeting anyone, the sexual spark may not even be there, much less the possibility for love. And to be open to it, just feels natural to me. The thought of leaving or no longer seeing someone close that we have developed feelings for, well would kinda detur me at least from even starting a friendship.

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

But some swingers are afraid to go there emotionally and some polys are afraid of what they perceive the stigma of being "swingers". The fact is that there is a big group of cross-overs and they are just as right in what they do as the two seperate groups are in their respective worlds.

Yes indeed, we fully agree and wouldn't it be nice though to have a topic in each lifestyle's forums to talk about "our" way of lifes? Or better yet, to have everyone just join together in one big happy non-vanilla world

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

This was the topic of another thread Loving your swinging partner recently, and you can see the distinct opinions there.

Thanks for the link, I posted some answers to his questions, and found the thread to be mostly like any other on the subject, with a few exceptions of people with less restrictions, and not threatened by the possibility of love. We understand it's not for everyone, and we would never judge either side for their views or rules. To each their own

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

I fully understand where you are coming from, and I believe there is a huge group of swingers out there that are looking for a little something more then just a quick screw. A group that a relationship like what Mike an Jan refer to, which can be very good indeed.
Mr. WS

Yeah, a quick screw just doesn't do much for me, the husband is an entire differant oppion there But then again he is intrueged by the options now available as am I . But it is nice to know that others are mid-way floaters as we, so thank you for being honest

xoxoxo C