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Mike and Jan · 07-24-2006, 02:59 AM

You are right about there not being a middle-ground between swinging and polymorous relationships.

But I think that there are a lot of couples who are looking for something in between.

My wife and I had experiences with five couples years ago and the most enjoyable, for me at least, was with the couple we knew the longest and liked the most.

Now I'm not saying that I loved this woman, I'd likely never have married her if we were single and dating, but I just enjoyed her so much in ways other than just the sex.

I've heard numerous remarks about swinging and having dates. Well it is dating, together, as a couple. And on vanilla dates, don't you get closer with each other on every new date? So, why wouldn't you in swinging?

There's a big difference between (dating and romance), and ture lifelong married love. I think the dating and romance (at least flirting) is as enjoyable as the sex itself. And I can certainly see feeling some love for this other partner but it isn't at all the same love you feel for your spouse.

And, the longer you know someone the more comfortable you are with them sexually.

I could definitely see two couples, living separate marriages and in separate households, but being best friends for a long time and enjoying sexual adventures together as well.

There's just not much that two open-minded couples who like each other can't experience. And if the two couples are exclusive with each other then it sure makes for a safer environment, doesn't it?

Now isn't that a lot of what swinging is about? Experiencing things that a couple just can't alone?

Now, would this be called swinging or polymorous? I'd guess that both communities would say the other.

Imagine though the potential for each of the four to experience foursomes, threesomes of both kinds, and any bisexual activities that are desired in complete safety. Just had a thought..., what a great birthday each could have. Each person could plan exactly what they want for their day!

And as, known, longtime friends it won't be at all suspicious to take vacations together or spend time at each other's homes. Family and other friends would never know about your real friendships if you use common sense in your own community.

Sounds like a nice arrangement and lifestyle (whichever category) to me.

Good luck to you both and I hope you find that other lucky couple.

07-24-2006, 02:59 AM	#2 (permalink)
Mike and Jan Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2000 Posts: 364 Location: Florida (north-central) Status: M. Male	Re: Swinging and Poly-words You are right about there not being a middle-ground between swinging and polymorous relationships. But I think that there are a lot of couples who are looking for something in between. My wife and I had experiences with five couples years ago and the most enjoyable, for me at least, was with the couple we knew the longest and liked the most. Now I'm not saying that I loved this woman, I'd likely never have married her if we were single and dating, but I just enjoyed her so much in ways other than just the sex. I've heard numerous remarks about swinging and having dates. Well it is dating, together, as a couple. And on vanilla dates, don't you get closer with each other on every new date? So, why wouldn't you in swinging? There's a big difference between (dating and romance), and ture lifelong married love. I think the dating and romance (at least flirting) is as enjoyable as the sex itself. And I can certainly see feeling some love for this other partner but it isn't at all the same love you feel for your spouse. And, the longer you know someone the more comfortable you are with them sexually. I could definitely see two couples, living separate marriages and in separate households, but being best friends for a long time and enjoying sexual adventures together as well. There's just not much that two open-minded couples who like each other can't experience. And if the two couples are exclusive with each other then it sure makes for a safer environment, doesn't it? Now isn't that a lot of what swinging is about? Experiencing things that a couple just can't alone? Now, would this be called swinging or polymorous? I'd guess that both communities would say the other. Imagine though the potential for each of the four to experience foursomes, threesomes of both kinds, and any bisexual activities that are desired in complete safety. Just had a thought..., what a great birthday each could have. Each person could plan exactly what they want for their day! And as, known, longtime friends it won't be at all suspicious to take vacations together or spend time at each other's homes. Family and other friends would never know about your real friendships if you use common sense in your own community. Sounds like a nice arrangement and lifestyle (whichever category) to me. Good luck to you both and I hope you find that other lucky couple. __________________ 58 years old and married for 34 of 'em. "Caged contentedly, yet still looking out beyond the bars."