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Originally Posted by mdpair I came here looking for advice for a very similar scenario.
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Mdpair,
I've seen this is your first post in the forum, so I bleive it'd be worth to explain to you something about how this forum (or any forum) works.
Every thread is devoted to the particular issue from the thread original poster (OP), in such a way that all the members can focus on the OP specifics when answering. This, of course, may lead to the exchange of oppinions that diverge from the original topic, but it's advisable that, when someone feels such a discussion constitutes a different topic, to start a new one devoted to it, and just make a post in the original thread with a link to the new one, so the ones interested in such a discussion can diverge without disrupting the original thread purpose (something that in a forum is called "hihacking the thread").
This also helps the OP, and other people facing a similar situation to avoid wasting the time required to skip those answers that has nothing to do with the topic thei're interested on.
In the other hand, since you're seeking for advice regarding your own problem, the rest of us cannot easily identify it as to provide you help: thos who already saw this thread and believe they have anything to say, or who already added their two cents and wants to move on to a different topic, wouldn't have the chance to even notice you came to the forum asking for advice.
So, your post is hihacking Mr. and Mrs. Pumpkin thread (even when unintented), and it is extremely inefficient for yourself to catch the attention it deserves.
I won't answer to you here, just because I don't want the thread to keep being hihacked (even when this post, again, would be a hihack by itself, for which I apologize but since you're new, I believe it's justified).
I'd suggest you to copy the text from your original post, create a new topic and paste the thext there. Then, to come back here to advice you moved your post, asking people to answer to your question in your thread. You can add the link to the new thread address to your post, and if you don't know how to do it, just inform us your thread name. And I'd be glad to answer your post there.
Welcome to the board!