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Originally Posted by mdpair We went to on-premise sex clubs and were shy and stayed to ourselves, but had explosive sex in crowds. We both agreed that we were so lucky that after 20 years our relationship was immeasurably stronger that it had ever been. After maybe 3 months of this new plateau she tells me she is attracted to someone at work. I tell her that I know because I had met him and seen them together and heard the way she talked about him. At first I say that is okay ,I ask her to tell me all about it. |
That's where it took a
totally different turn. Maybe you are both at fault for her going there, because you did encourage it. Swinging is one thing, but going after somebody you work with, and have a crush on, is something else altogether. I wonder if you both thought at the time that it was just an extension of swinging?
Is it possible that you can both forgive each other and just move forward from here? It sounds like the swinging was great for both of you. Maybe you didn't have clear boundaries in the past. Most swingers don't want the emotional attachments and avoid them. If they sense themselves going in that direction, they cut it off. Since you two still love each other, it's possible you could work this all out with a lot of communication, and respecting the boundaries of what works for you, and what doesn't.
You sound like a great guy - I hope that things work out, whether you swing or not.