The Swingers Board - View Single Post - My girlfriend's body doesn't turn me on and she won't swing

Estaque · 07-21-2006, 02:37 PM

I can't believe the superficial responses. It is perfectly possible to be in love with someone you're not completely physically attracted to, especially if they are a caring person and they meet your emotional needs. And there's nothing wrong with that. If this guy is like most young men, he gets turned on by every skirt he sees prancing down the street.

Basically, my advice is to weigh the pros and cons of your situation, and figure out what is most important to you. Do you love your girlfriend more than you want to bang other women? Because that’s the bottom line, and if you can’t convince her to swing then eventually you’re likely going to cheat on her, and that pretty much sucks. There are a lot of screwed up people walking around because they have been hurt, and in my opinion there’s no need to add another one to the list if you can help it.

If it were me, I’d use a little subtlety and try to convince her to swing with you. If it isn’t going to happen and you know you’re going to cheat on her then break it off. If you love her enough you’re willing to lock your hormones down for a long, long time then more power to you.

07-21-2006, 02:37 PM	#8 (permalink)
Estaque Here to Stay Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 93 Location: South Carolina	Re: Need Advice I can't believe the superficial responses. It is perfectly possible to be in love with someone you're not completely physically attracted to, especially if they are a caring person and they meet your emotional needs. And there's nothing wrong with that. If this guy is like most young men, he gets turned on by every skirt he sees prancing down the street. Basically, my advice is to weigh the pros and cons of your situation, and figure out what is most important to you. Do you love your girlfriend more than you want to bang other women? Because that’s the bottom line, and if you can’t convince her to swing then eventually you’re likely going to cheat on her, and that pretty much sucks. There are a lot of screwed up people walking around because they have been hurt, and in my opinion there’s no need to add another one to the list if you can help it. If it were me, I’d use a little subtlety and try to convince her to swing with you. If it isn’t going to happen and you know you’re going to cheat on her then break it off. If you love her enough you’re willing to lock your hormones down for a long, long time then more power to you.