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JP51 · 07-21-2006, 09:19 AM

I have to agree with all the other posters. At 21 and if you do not have a physical attraction you are going down a path you might want to reconsider. If your not sparking now with sex, and your in your prime years...step back, do the list thing and spend some time really thinking about this relationship. My wife and I know each other since we were 13...we are now 51/50...and the sex has only got better over the years, and since we have been in the lifestyle the past 5 or so one can't complain.

Frankly, you have to be able to talk to her about your feelings and if you can't your better off as is she of walking away. Now others may slam me on that advice, but open and honest about it all has to happen. My wife went through the I need to cut here and tuck there stage...frankly I did not care if she did it or not. But we talked about it...her comments was, heck I am doing it for me, not you....and besides, I may want may a younger lover (she has one he's 37, lol I get the fringe benfit his wife is 37 too), have to give him some of the good stuff you got. And she told me to hit the gym too...that is open and I saw her point.

Bottom line from a old man, take your time, and decide what you want. I left the love of my life for a lot of years to go off and explore the world. We are both better off for it.

07-21-2006, 09:19 AM	#6 (permalink)
JP51 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 176 Location: Texas Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:jimdebra1	Re: Need Advice I have to agree with all the other posters. At 21 and if you do not have a physical attraction you are going down a path you might want to reconsider. If your not sparking now with sex, and your in your prime years...step back, do the list thing and spend some time really thinking about this relationship. My wife and I know each other since we were 13...we are now 51/50...and the sex has only got better over the years, and since we have been in the lifestyle the past 5 or so one can't complain. Frankly, you have to be able to talk to her about your feelings and if you can't your better off as is she of walking away. Now others may slam me on that advice, but open and honest about it all has to happen. My wife went through the I need to cut here and tuck there stage...frankly I did not care if she did it or not. But we talked about it...her comments was, heck I am doing it for me, not you....and besides, I may want may a younger lover (she has one he's 37, lol I get the fringe benfit his wife is 37 too), have to give him some of the good stuff you got. And she told me to hit the gym too...that is open and I saw her point. Bottom line from a old man, take your time, and decide what you want. I left the love of my life for a lot of years to go off and explore the world. We are both better off for it.