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Originally Posted by akaab39 I'm a 21 year old male that was an active swinger before I met my girlfriend that I am currently in a relationship with. This girl is a great person and I fell in love with her personality, but I miss swinging. I have brought it up to her semi-jokingly and she has completely shunned the idea. Another thing is... her body does not turn me on like my previous partners' have. I am in love with her but do not get turned on by her. Being a former swinger and a highly sexual person, it is tough for me to not be turned on by a girl that I could be with for a very long time. What are your thoughts? What should I do about it? |
This has me stunned. A 21 year old male that loves a woman he isn't turned on by? This is one for Ripley's.
Seriously, there are several issues here you need to consider. What is it about her body you don't like and is it something she could do something about (lose weight, improve muscle tone, get a tan)? If so, you're not doing her or yourself any favors by not talking about it to her. If you only love her personality, why get in a relationship with her? If that's the depth of your love, you could be a great friend, but will never be able to be a good partner.
Over time the "not turned on" feeling will probably grow into "can't stand". Then you'll not only lose a partner, but a friend (possibly several friends), all because you don't want to hurt her feelings now.