I've changed my view on this question ever since I've begun associating with swingers. Not too long ago, I would have said 'Neither' in my case. There's just too much game playing, and it's frustrating.
Among swingers, everything is more upfront. Both men and women can try their hand at seduction, and no one has to be afraid of saying "No" or of having their feelings hurt.
Yes, there's a lot of game-playing among swingers, but in the swinging environment everyone knows the rules and can play along.
I vote for "Both."....Btw, Julie, I've got a great idea for an appropriate Graemlin...start with lonely male (sad face), enter female who combines 'rolls eyes' with 'kiss' (think Mae West), then exits...male smiles and pursues...end of Graemlin. Or else you could have the female rub up against the male, who would begin smiling. Would that be a good representation of female seduction?
-Drew