Mr. Pump, you sound very sincere. I'm glad that you decided to not keep up the chats with this woman any more, for your wife's sake.
Did you see all the ways on this thread that other couples keep all of the lines of communication 100% open together (joint email, joint IM)? Maybe if you and your wife talk about all the practical ways that this could be better, and come to agreements about how to handle various aspects of communicating with other people (camming, cybering, etc.), you'll both feel a lot better and know how to handle things as they come up.
I sensed that your wife was unhappy with your daily communications and nude camming she walked in on, before you ever met the woman in person. Mrs. Pump, I'd like to suggest that you learn to open up and be more verbal with your feelings, right when you're feeling something. You have a right to express yourself. Share whatever is the right comfort level, for you.
Good luck to you both.
