 Re: Has this ever happened to you??
Gotta tell you, I see a LOT of red flags here.
We have a firm agreement on one major point in our marriage - we NEVER do anything, speak to, meet with, message with, cam with anyone without talking to our SO first. Then once everyone is comfortable with things, and have agreed upon what we feel comfortable with and what we don't feel comfortable with then we proceed. I like to play the game of 'other people's shoes' and never do anything that I couldn't handle if the roles were reversed.
To me I can understand your feelings of hurt and betrayal - swinging is about having fun sexually as a couple - what he is doing boarders on a relationship and he is doing it with out involving you. It does walk that fine line towards cheating.
I think you need to talk to him, tell him that he needs to break it off with this woman becuase it is threatening the stablitiy of your marriage, and if you are going to continue to swing in the future then it has to be as a couple, acting together, not with one half finding out things later on. I think he is getting a little too caught up in things and needs to take a step back.
I think you have every right to feel the way you do and maybe now is the time to revisit any rules you had in beginning.
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