I know that I can't answer that question because it's different for every case. I have been both the seducer and the seducee (tho I gotta admit I LOVE being the seducer).

Maybe a better question may have been: Which do you enjoy being? The seducer, the seducee, both, or do you just go out it without any flirting, seducing or foreplay.
Just MHO.
Quin