[Edison Carter]

Susan here-- As soon as you have a set of rules that allows one partner more play than the other, you will probably have problems. The reason being that your 'equal' partnership has become unequal. Agreed upon 'rules' will never overcome inequality.
In the case of Edison and I, we are in full swap play. Of course, it's a much more complex topic, but I trust you see what I mean.

Lastly, you want to do more than just say he broke a rule, you want to accuse him of cheating. That's gunnysacking and is a reflection of your anger. If you take this as a learning experience and move forward and not a reason to be angry with your spouse, you'll fare better.