We have been swinging for about 6 months as well so as you read my comments, remember that we are new as well
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I think there are three points you may want to consider.
First, you may want to re-examine your
reasons for swinging. It sounds like you like the social aspect. Does this include the physical as well? If you could hang out with fun, sexually-open people without having sex, would you prefer that? It was your man' suggestion that you start swinging ...did you do it to please him or are you truly invested in doing it? Just a question for you to ponder.
Next, I think you may want to
reexamine your communication patterns. and boundaries. My husband and I have discussions about swinging. After every event we sit down and discuss what happened, how we felt, and if there are things we would change. This means that we are in a process of contant evaluation. During these times we have reevaluated our boundaries, etc. A few months ago we went from soft swap to full swap as a result of one of these "sessions."
Your message sounds like you both are not communicating your wishes well. This is problematic in the lifestyle. FYI: You should never do something that you do not want to do. Your wishes are valid and important and your partner should respect them. Swinging is about adding to an already solid relationship. It is not about obligation...it is about liberation!
Finally, you may want to
think about your relationship. Do you have a solid history or are these issues "spill overs" from other relationsip issues? I ask because I have noticed that our best playmates are those that have a solid relationship. It sounds like there is some jealousy in your relationship. Your use of language such as "he is mine" makes me think that you may not be ready to swing. Yes, my husband is my husband, but I love seeing him receive and give pleasure to other women. It doesn't diminish what we have. In fact, when other women are moaning, I think "damn I'm lucky."
These are just my thoughts. Take care!!
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