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rpu3 · 07-16-2006, 09:53 AM

We are very new to this as well, with a couple of "actual" experiences under our belt. The one thing we have learned is that the rules or boundaries may end up being modified on the fly. The end result of that may or may not be good.

If my husband asked me outright, on the fly, if he could do something, and I said "I don't care", I've just told him yes, especially if you consider the alcohol, We both learned after our first experience, which was pretty bad, that there can be nothing less than complete honesty and absolutely no hedging on such things because he and I do not always speak the same language. He (my spouse) may not pick up on my lack of enthusiam or that "I don't care" is a euphemism for "You put me on the spot and I really don't want you to do that" - especially with alcohol and general horniness aplenty!

I'm a tad more concerned for you that I'm not sure you really want to do this and the expectations he perceives.

Good luck with your resolution. I hope you post as to how you work this out.

R. (the female half)

07-16-2006, 09:53 AM	#10 (permalink)
rpu3 Doing it our way... Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 3,273 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:rpu3	Re: Husband crossed the line on what was agreed... We are very new to this as well, with a couple of "actual" experiences under our belt. The one thing we have learned is that the rules or boundaries may end up being modified on the fly. The end result of that may or may not be good. If my husband asked me outright, on the fly, if he could do something, and I said "I don't care", I've just told him yes, especially if you consider the alcohol, We both learned after our first experience, which was pretty bad, that there can be nothing less than complete honesty and absolutely no hedging on such things because he and I do not always speak the same language. He (my spouse) may not pick up on my lack of enthusiam or that "I don't care" is a euphemism for "You put me on the spot and I really don't want you to do that" - especially with alcohol and general horniness aplenty! I'm a tad more concerned for you that I'm not sure you really want to do this and the expectations he perceives. Good luck with your resolution. I hope you post as to how you work this out. R. (the female half)