Sorry, I don't want to steal the thread, but I and my wife are going trough somewhat similar issues, so I felt the need to ask:
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Originally Posted by Added Spice (his request and i oblige). |
Why would you oblige if you don't want to do it? Or you actually want to do it but it is easier for your conscience if your husband asks you to do it, because then you wouldn't feel the need to offer the same lack of restrictions to your partner?
It looks to me that you and your husband are both trying to work out your insecurities cold turkey. That is something me and my wife are trying to do and we have decided that we are simply not ready yet, so I’ve been reading the forums a whole bunch lately.
Back to the OP: great advice from the other posters. Maybe in addition to the rules and when to change them, you should try to work some scenarios out. Like WHAT IF… kind of thing. I know you cannot predict everything, but you can at least cover the major things and have a WHAT TO DO IF…. plan laid out before anything happens.