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sccple29073 · 07-05-2002, 02:52 AM

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Originally posted by incommunicado:
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Me, I don't buy it. I think we all have an inate need for fairness and balance and I think drawing a line in the sand and saying "I can do this because it doesn't bother you, but you can't because it bothers me," goes against that inate human need for equal exchange. With the exception of "girl-girl only", encounters (because they seem to be an accepted norm), I think couples who swing should be prepared for some kind of even exchange. If she gets hers, he should be allowed to get his and vice-vera.
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I have to agree with you on this one. My first few bi experiances were just f/f, but gradually my hubby joined.(which is a turn on for me) However, he was uncomfortable with me being with another man. Now keep in mind that I am not interested in swinging to get to sleep with other men, but to add to our sex life. (the experiences we have had so far has made our sex life better and has improved our communication with each other)
However, I did eventually start to feel like it was a little one sided and yes i'll admit I felt he was being "unfair". We talked about it and decided for the time being, it would strictly be girl/girl.
Now 6 months later we are going to our first swing party, this saturday (His idea)

07-05-2002, 02:52 AM	#10 (permalink)
sccple29073 Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 61 Location: South carolina	quote: Originally posted by incommunicado: [QB] Me, I don't buy it. I think we all have an inate need for fairness and balance and I think drawing a line in the sand and saying "I can do this because it doesn't bother you, but you can't because it bothers me," goes against that inate human need for equal exchange. With the exception of "girl-girl only", encounters (because they seem to be an accepted norm), I think couples who swing should be prepared for some kind of even exchange. If she gets hers, he should be allowed to get his and vice-vera. QB] I have to agree with you on this one. My first few bi experiances were just f/f, but gradually my hubby joined.(which is a turn on for me) However, he was uncomfortable with me being with another man. Now keep in mind that I am not interested in swinging to get to sleep with other men, but to add to our sex life. (the experiences we have had so far has made our sex life better and has improved our communication with each other) However, I did eventually start to feel like it was a little one sided and yes i'll admit I felt he was being "unfair". We talked about it and decided for the time being, it would strictly be girl/girl. Now 6 months later we are going to our first swing party, this saturday (His idea)
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