[The Fuse]

Just a big Ditto to several of the above postings... we met one soft swap couple without realizing they were soft swap (my fault). When it came out in conversation, we decided not to play with them, even though we liked them a lot. They persisted, and even held out the possibility that they might eventually change their mind. As a result of their emails and phone calls, we have had two very enjoyable play dates with them. They do not bring any drama, but don't show any signs of going full swap either. They keep asking when they can see us again. The problem is, the soft swap thing is just frustrating to me... a big tease as someone else said. As much as we like them, we may not see them again.

To the original poster, I would say just don't send any mixed signals like we have experienced with this couple. From what you wrote, it sounds like you wouldn't do that.