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Originally Posted by Lumina So I've been reading here a lot and I'm finding myself quite interested. I'm getting the message here about how it's more about overall attraction than perfect bodies. Older people, heavier people, jump right in--sure some people are fixated on great bodies but there are lots who care about so much more.
Then I get on Swing Lifestyle and I'm overwhelmed by nude photos, before I even click on any profiles. Now I'm not knocking anyone's individual decision to post nudes. Please don't take it that way. I'm concerned more about how the sheer volume of them tells me there must be a huge demand. Why? You can tell if a person is good-looking, HWP, etc. from clothed pics. Yet it seems the vast majority of people are giving you their intimate photos before getting so much as your name. I can't help but get this vibe that most people want a detailed inspection of the goods before purchasing. It feels like a meat market. Blech. Please tell me I'm wrong.
Now I know I can weed out the people who care about nude pics by simply refusing to post them. Which I intend to do. And I know that if we go to clubs there will be rejection. I get that. But is finding a couple who are more concerned about general chemistry than body imperfections going to be like finding a needle in a haystack? Am I going to feel up for inspection walking through the doors into a club? |
Welcome to the wonderful world of swinging. This is perhaps the most annoying part of swinging and there is no 'right' answer. We have found there is no 'good' place or way to meet couples and it is indeed a needle in a haystack for us. We don't do nudes ourselves nor do we require them. We do eliminate anyone who has genital close ups. While we don't think nudes are required, we have recently taken down our adds due to them being a waste of time.
Clubs are better in that you can do in five minutes what would take 10 emails and do a better job at it as well. Clubs on the other hand can leave your isolated or trying to fend off the overly agressive couple you are not interested in.
Some people really enjoy the clubs, some (far less) do well with the internet, but for us its like playing a game of "Where's Waldo", only replace Waldo with a couple we are both attracted to, are attracted to us, lives close enough, and have personalities we mesh with, oh and last but not least, want to really swing.