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Originally Posted by alphaplaycpl

Those of you who are full swap couples, if you learn that a couple considers themselves soft swingers, is it an immediate turn off?

Yep, not interested. In the past when we have went ahead and played with a soft swap only couples it has been pretty dissappointing. While it may not be in your case, we have found that if someone is soft swap only, they are either really new and unsure of what they want, or have issues. Both of those have ended up creating more drama than we are willing to deal with so we just politely decline. Besides, to me soft swap is just the tease without any chance for satisfaction, so it pretty much takes the fun out of it.

Originally Posted by alphaplaycpl

Do you perhaps set out to "convert" them to full-swap as a challenge?

No, they have their reasons and it is none of my business. When they say they only soft swap, that is all we need to know and we will move on.

Originally Posted by alphaplaycpl

Does it make a difference to you what a soft swinging couples rules are? In other words, if the couple either swaps or doesn't for oral, does it make a difference in whether you will play with them or not?

No.

Originally Posted by alphaplaycpl

Also - how many of you began in the lifestyle as soft swingers and have become full-swap?

We started out full swap. What got us interested in swinging was partying with a group of non-swinging friends were our teasing and petting with each others spouses eventually evolved into what we came to know was soft swinging. We got tired of the endless tease and wanted to take it further, they didn't. We got on the internet and found out about swinging, went to our first on-premise club, found lots of people that were willing to swap and haven't looked back.

While I am sure their are lots of people who find soft swinging completely fullfilling and all they want to do, it isn't for us. Luckily, their are all kinds of swingers, so their is plenty of fun for everybody, no matter what flavor you like.