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incommunicado · 06-28-2002, 10:37 AM

I've seena lot of posts recently from couples who's rules allow one member to have sex with others, while precluding the other member from doing the same. The common reason stated, was acknowledged jealousy/insecurity on the part of the wife/girlfriend (though it could easily go the other way).

What is the groups take on this? Is this a healthy approach to swinging? Is it fair?

Me, I don't buy it. I think we all have an inate need for fairness and balance and I think drawing a line in the sand and saying "I can do this because it doesn't bother you, but you can't because it bothers me," goes against that inate human need for equal exchange. With the exception of "girl-girl only", encounters (because they seem to be an accepted norm), I think couples who swing should be prepared for some kind of even exchange. If she gets hers, he should be allowed to get his and vice-vera.

Does this make sense? Am I being politically incorrect by raising the subject?

06-28-2002, 10:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
incommunicado Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 198 Location: Baltimore, MD	One Sided Swinging... I've seena lot of posts recently from couples who's rules allow one member to have sex with others, while precluding the other member from doing the same. The common reason stated, was acknowledged jealousy/insecurity on the part of the wife/girlfriend (though it could easily go the other way). What is the groups take on this? Is this a healthy approach to swinging? Is it fair? Me, I don't buy it. I think we all have an inate need for fairness and balance and I think drawing a line in the sand and saying "I can do this because it doesn't bother you, but you can't because it bothers me," goes against that inate human need for equal exchange. With the exception of "girl-girl only", encounters (because they seem to be an accepted norm), I think couples who swing should be prepared for some kind of even exchange. If she gets hers, he should be allowed to get his and vice-vera. Does this make sense? Am I being politically incorrect by raising the subject?