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WonderWhat · 07-01-2006, 03:33 AM

The whole thing reminds me of the whole adolescent bullying/hazing routine:

pull kids into the group
make them feel included
tell them that they're about to be "initiated" into some arcane group/skill/knowledge
make them feel that they've accomplished something, and that backing out now would be "losing" something (losing face, prestige, privileges, whatever)
use that as a lever to submit them to the group or leader's will

YoungHotCpl: You were very slow to catch on. Cut loose, take a step back, check your situation as a couple, re-examine your assumptions and attend to your relationship, and until that happens, see if you really want to be in the lifestyle, and how (define your rules, the "grey area" description is really fitting and practical).

07-01-2006, 03:33 AM	#47 (permalink)
WonderWhat Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 140 Location: Greater Seattle area Status: Couple	Re: Sexual Blackmail The whole thing reminds me of the whole adolescent bullying/hazing routine: pull kids into the group make them feel included tell them that they're about to be "initiated" into some arcane group/skill/knowledge make them feel that they've accomplished something, and that backing out now would be "losing" something (losing face, prestige, privileges, whatever) use that as a lever to submit them to the group or leader's will YoungHotCpl: You were very slow to catch on. Cut loose, take a step back, check your situation as a couple, re-examine your assumptions and attend to your relationship, and until that happens, see if you really want to be in the lifestyle, and how (define your rules, the "grey area" description is really fitting and practical).