Ok, so here's the background. My husband and I have had experience with swinging for a while, and when we were in Alaska, I talked with my best friend about it. She was not very interested but, she, as my best friend listened and was interested in my take and what happened with us, just not interested for herself.
Now we're in Louisiana, and her and her hubby are in Utah.
She has admitted to having fantasies about other women, and swinging with myself and my husband. Her husband seems to be a jealous type, and she doesn't know how to discuss things (even with them in general, not with us necessarily) with him about this topic. She finally admitted to him that she thinks she might be bi, and he says that turns him on, but when they were discussing it he made the comment "You can be with another woman, but we'll have to share her." She, of course, wants to explore that side of herself, but wants to be able to be with other men if he is sleeping with other women. (Which is in my opinion understandable.)
She wants to talk to him about swinging, and has a hard time mostly because she's a very VERY blunt person
She said she just straight asked him about swinging, and of course he was surprised and said "NO!". She dropped it, and didn't discuss it with him further. Apparently later he came to her and said "Tell me how our relationship wouldn't change, and how we'd still love each other if we were sleeping with different people?!?" She came to me and I tried to refer her here.
Problem is, she doesn't like to read a super lot, and is quite impatient. I don't mind doing the research and posting the questions (She is shy to talk about sexual things, religious background and whatnot), because if I link her to them she'll read it. I just don't want to be the go between in as much as her taking what I say word for word when we don't have a whole lot of experience, and with being pregnant my answers could vary by the hour
Surrender
So, even though I know this question has been posted before, and I'm researching it, new fresh perspectives are wanted and appreciated. The bottom line is:
How does she bring it up/discuss swinging with him tactfully, and is there any advice from the "veterans"? My husband and I didn't go thru the normal one wants it and the other doesn't process, so I don't have any answers. Thanks in advance!
~Blade~