[EvilMJ]

Looking at it from the other couples perspective, here is my take on it.

You did talk to them and initate a coffee meeting, even though you said nothing would happen. However I think you may be putting quite a different signal - We are agreeing to meet with you, therefore there is still a chance for us to get together. He tried to steer the converastion toward sex in an attempt to get you interested/see whether or not you might be interested.

Let's face it, most swingers do not invite others out for coffee unless it is a 'first meeting'. He is doing his best to get somewhere with a couple that he feels are young and attractive. In my own opinon I really don't think they are all that out of line as they are getting mixed signals from you and are tying to get the situation to be what they want it to be. I bet if they were asked, they would comment that if you weren't interested, then why did you ask us out in the first place - and completely disregard the friendship only part.

If you don't want to play with them then just come out and say "sorry but we are not interested. And if your comments continue to remain sexual in nature we will be blocking you in the future"


Consider this a learning experience - There are a large majority of swingers who are not in this for friendship, who consider the invitation to go out a 'green light'.

Your best bet is to respond to those you don't want to play with, with a no thank you, and leave the coffee for those who you consider potential playmates and you won't run into as much trouble in the long run.