While I agree with almost everything that everyone has said here, the suggestion made by some to try Viagra to correct what IMO is a mental problem and not physical, really bothers me.
Granted there are some who require Viagra in order to have sex with their spouses. In my opinion if you don't have a problem maintaining an erection with your spouse, you don't need to be taking it in order to have sex with someone else. I don't think the benefit over rides the risks. I am not questioning anyone who does, I have personal reasons for this and am just expressing them.
Both my husband, myself and some others that we have met have had sexual performance issues. I don't think it is limited to just men. I think though as the comfort level of watching each other with another person and getting to know them better, that allieviated the poor performance issues. My husband at one point became discouraged and wanted to try Viagra. We talked about it and since he never had a problem with me, the idea was nixed.
We haven't run across anyone who was unsympathetic to these sort of problems, though I am sure they are out there. I mostly think we are too critical of our ownselves making the problem much worse than it really is.
Lori
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