Tribbles - Now see, that is something we've never even considered. People don't want to play unless you're shaved? Hmmm, talk about picky. LOL I try to keep closely trimmed and waxed but have never completely gone hairless. And I know people who HATE the hairless look. They love that thick jungle.
Personally, it doesn't really matter to me. I've thought about shaving completely as a surprise for Chas but I'm with you, I wouldn't do it to please others. And yes, we can be perfectly happy just being little exhibitionists and voyeurs and screwing each OTHERS brains out!!!
As for oral, I would have just ASSUMED people WOULDN'T want to do it unless stated otherwise, since I consider that to be an *extremely* intimate act. I can certainly think of a lot of OTHER things to do to play and still have a good time without oral. One of the first things I did when I joined this forum was to go look under the "Swinger Advice" section above. There's a whole section on STD's and a message board there. I hope ya'all have read that carefully.
We love oral sex as much as anyone, (and God is he good at it) but we are not willing to lose our heads and let our sexual urges put us in a position where we have to explain to our kids why "Mom and Dad" are sick.
Sorry if some find that offensive or weird. Well, not really, but I'm trying to be nice. LOL As someone said, it's personal preference and we aim to proceed with caution.