Sure wish I had an answer for you. If I did, I would use it myself.
I do want to make one comment, however. One or more of the replies suggests that the source of the problem is lack of physical attraction to the woman. A woman ALWAYS seems to feel it must be because she is not attractive enough, which makes male performance failure doubly devastating. It harms the ego of the man and the woman.
At least for me, physical attraction does not seem to affect performance. Most women are physically a step down from my spouse, but that does not mean that many or most are still very desireable. Flops, however, do not seem to be correlated with the physical attractiveness of the woman involved.
I have found the most important factor is the attitude of the woman. If she is into pleasing as much as she is into being pleased, things usually work out fine. It is more important for me that the woman is obviously attracted to me, rather than the other way around.
As for the use of Viagra, it is useful, but not foolproof. There is still a mental component to the drug. We are talking here about mental sexual problems, not physical problems. I wonder if anyone knows of mental exercizes, such as self-hypnosis, which may be useful in getting over these anxiety hangups?
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