We have been in a very similar situation like yourself and thought we would share it with you.
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Something my lady and I have been talking about for awhile now, is for her to have sex with a guy and then tell me about it afterwards. We've talked it through quite a bit and have set up the ground rules, picked the guy and have decided to persue it.
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We have done this on a few occassions, where the wife plays alone with someone else. Having done both, a threesome and wife playing alone. I find when she plays alone it is allot more emotionally intense than a threesome and not as satisfying because you are only hearing about it second hand.
This type of scenario can take allot of emotional preparation and it can be quite risky. It is one thing for it to be an incredibly hot fantasy but it is something quite different to be real. You may find yourself going through a cornacopia of emotions from excitement, arousal, to fear, and loss. It takes allot of security and trust in the realtionship for something like this to work out. The main thing is communicate about it and avoid it becoming a main focus of your play.
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The setup is this. He is an ex-bf of hers from 6 years ago, who's wife recently left him. He's coming into our area over the long 4th of july weekend, and we've invited him over for a few drinks. If all goes well, and we are both comfortable with the situation, she will tell me she wants to go for it, and I'll excuse myself on a work matter for an hour or so, to give her a chance to seduce him.
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The threesome we had was with an ex-boyfriend. She wanted someone with whom she could be comfortable with and could trust for a threesome. So she chose a former boyfriend of hers with whom she wanted to have sex with but never engaged in it him while they were dating.
I do see two red flag, the fact that he is separated. This could complicate things for all involved, especially if there is a possibility that they could get back together. My recommendation would be let the relationship (between the ex-boyfriend and his wife resolve itself) and if they do divorce wait a year after the divorce is final before before pursuing him. Otherwise you are setting yourself up for some drama and a potentially messy situation.
The other red flag I see is that he is a former bf. In our sittuation I was present so that things 'did not get out of hand' but without you being there, it is possible he could try to 'sway her' into leaving you.
Speaking from experience if you are going to have her play by herself with a formed bf, it is best to have it as a one off situation and it is best to minimise any 'rekindling' of emotions by allowing any emotional wounds heal (e.g. time to recover from the separation and divorce). Also I would recommend meeting him, be very clear that the two of you have a secure relationship, and at the end of the evening she will be returning with you. In this type of situation I would not 'excuse myself on a work matter' and let them be. Instead I would be very open about what the two of you wanted and the ground rules. Finally I would plan at least letting them be alone for a minimum of 2 - 4 hours. This will allow any anxieties to subside and not put the pressure of time on them.