Asking anybody how safe they were in the past or how many people they have been with is both pointless and rude. If they don't have anything interesting in their past to tell you about, which is unlikely, then you look like a goon for asking. If they do have anything interesting in their past then they are going to lie about it anyway, so what's the point in asking? "Well, I've had sex with about 100 guys, I'm not really sure, and I usually make them use condoms unless I'm really drunk." Nobody is going to say that, so why ask?
It's really pretty hypocritical to ask anyway. Do you ask the person because you're trying to figure out if you're willing to have sex with them without a condom? Well that's hypocritical, they should use condoms with every other guy but not with you? If you're going to wear a condom anyway then why are you asking? It's rude, it doesn't help you to make any important decisions, you're probably going to get a false response anyway, there is just no point to it at all.
Regarding the "TeamSoBe is sexist" sub-theme: I have nothing to apologize for. I'm not being sexist, he asked a question about a girl, I gave my opinion and it was about a wild girl specifically because that's what he asked about. It's interesting that so many people here are so sensitive to any hint of potential sexism in a man though. I'm trying to figure out what that might say about our community.
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