[WesternSwing]

I think many couples want couples and single females rather than couples and single males, or couples, single females, and single males. You completely left out the single male aspect. I think this is the real question: why couples and single females and not couples and single males?

I feel this has allot to do with insecurity on the part of the husband inviting another single male into the picture with his wife. There is not as much of a chance of his wife running off with a single female as a single male. Whether it's threatening or just an "if she's getting some so am I", I'm not sure, but I'll bet it's a little of both. I know in the beginning of our venture into swinging this was the case for me. Single males were threatening, married males were not, and jealousy was held at bay by the fact that I was getting some, too. Having been there and done that, it is not the case any longer and I laugh at myself for ever feeling that way.

There are not allot of single females in the Lifestyle, either. I feel this has much to do with more single females looking for relationships then single guys. Most single guys just want to get laid, most single females are looking for a relationship of some kind. It's just biology at work. Women want to get some just as bad as men, it's just they have more at stake then men when it comes to sex, therefore biologically they are looking for something different. Men want to dump their sperm, women want to make sure the guy dumping his sperm will be there afterward to raise the child. It doesn't matter if there is birth control involved, it's only been around 30 years and humans have been on this rock for over seven million. You don't change seven million years of genetic survival instinct overnight.

The Lifestyle does not support this for a single woman. Single women are putting allot of time and effort into someone else's relationship.

This doesn't mean they're not out there, just that they're just not out there in the numbers that single guys are.

Now to answer your first question. I've found MFM threesomes to be preferable to FMF threesomes, and foursomes are always good. I like getting some action also, but seeing Mrs. WS having a great time with another guy and I is just plain incredible. I really get something more out of that emotionally then I do a MFMF.

Mr. WS