At the risk of raising the ire of some members who'll read here perspectives I've voiced on this board in other threads, but without the condescending posting of links for you to read them elsewhere... I'll be happy to give you some of my single fem perspectives on the questions you ask...
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Originally Posted by 2jersey Although unscientific – we have collected strong evidence that most couples (based on their stated profile objectives) are virtually indifferent as to whether they meet couples or single females. We, on the other hand, have a strong preference for couples play – and have been considering altering our profile to show that we have ‘zero’ interest in meeting single females (we are currently expressing minor interest in our profile). |
It's been my view and my experience that many couples who post their equal desire for couples and single bi-fems are, more likely than not, fairly new to the lifestyle. I would venture to guess that most of them, would they put as much thought into it as you are and after a few experiences, would go back and change them to reflect a general desire for couples only.
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Originally Posted by 2jersey Our perspective: Put two couples in the same room (preferably on a king-sized bed) - and you can enjoy threesomes (MFM or FFM), interspersed with foursomes (MFMF) and female play (FF). During the FMF segments, one male simply takes a step back, catches his breath, and enjoys the view. This arrangement has flowed well for us in the past, and we don’t feel as though we are missing anything by not having a single female to satisfy our FF, FMF or FFM desires. |
Agreed. And I'm sure many of the couples here will agree with you as well.
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Originally Posted by 2jersey Additionally, our general view is that married females are more attractive (from an overall perspective) than single females who have (for whatever reason) chosen to swing rather than engage in plain vanilla dating (of men and/or women). We don’t intend to offend or antagonize single females (or anyone) – our observation is very general rather than specific. |
Again, I believe your general view is correct. Many, if not most, of the single women I have encountered in the lifestyle are bat-shit crazy, mentally imbalanced, have more luggage than Samsonite, or a combination of all three in varying degrees. There are, of course, exceptions to the rule... myself being one of them, naturally.
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Originally Posted by 2jersey Finally, we have heard that it is extremely difficult for couples to attract single females. |
As a single female with a pretty well-rounded view of things (again, possibly an exception when it comes to single females in general)... I would counter that most couples just don't have the "stick-to-it-ive-ness" to go through all the steps necessary to woo a single female. When you come down to it, it's all macro-economics... laws of supply and demand.
There's tons of couples and single males who desire single fems, not that many single fems. I get all manner of mail... probably 50-75 emails a week, even after one year. I can afford to be picky and I am. But the people who get the opportunities to actually meet up with me are the ones who are kind, polite, respectful and.... (here's the most important one)...
politely persistent in expressing their desire to meet. I will never, never be the pushy single. If someone (or a couple) wishes to meet with me, then he or they will
always extend the initial invitation. Period.
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Originally Posted by 2jersey We have received several messages from single females, but most of them seemed flakey, phony or immature. |
No argument here. See above.
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Originally Posted by 2jersey We are curious to hear the perspective of others on the board. Why do couples seem to have so much interest in threesomes involving single females – as opposed to couples’ activity in which all parties can be satisfied to a similar extent (and the females get some variety in their male activity)? |
My opinion, and my opinion only?... There's plenty of married men out there who would feel much more comfortable swinging if their wife never got to be with another man. However, the reality I've observed is that most couples who enter the lifestyle do so at the behest of the husband. But once they get out there and figure out they can't find a unicorn, they either leave altogether or the wife starts running the show and they go full swap.
As always, just one single gal's perspective... YMMV.