I can completely understand where you are coming from Onyx. We are only a few steps ahead of you. The chatting online did bother us both for a time. I would not intentionally ignore him, nor he ignore me intentionally, but sometimes we felt that we were ignored by the other. We sat down, talked it out. For me just hearing him say he loved me and would never ignore me on purpose made me feel better. Of course we only have one computer so our biggest problem sometimes is who gets on it
But we did deal with it and got over it. I noticed that I now just walk by him at the computer and glance at the screen just to see who he is chatting with. Not because I don't trust him, but because, well I am nosy
But I glance and keep walking by to do what it is I was on my way to do and vice versa for him. I try not to interrupt unless I need to and so does he. In return, when we are interrupted, we immediately type BRB to the person we are chatting with and turn from the computer to give each other the attention they need.
All conversations are saved when we chat. We also have an unspoken rule, and I hate to use the word rule because its more of a respect for privacy issue, that if we want to look in the others files, we simply say "hey gonna go check your files." sometimes we add jokes to it about "hope you cleaned up your nasty chats you don't want me seeing" but it truly is just a joke. We trust that the other one isn't gonna delete any. And checking them isn't about trust for us, just being nosy most of the time, and it gives us insight to the people that we do chat with. Him being a guy he can pick up what a guy means where I may think it meant something else and vice versa.
I do hope all works well for you both.