[Couple_N_Ark]

First off, as Chicup mentions, this sounds more like an open marriage, and not a swinging relationship.

This is just my opinion, but I don't agree with an open marriage relationship at all. There is just too much room for misunderstanding and trouble.

Secondly, you sound like you're the one who is pushing for this, but yet, you also sound like you are really not sure about this.

I think you need to just slow down or even stop, and think about what you want.

If it's an open marriage, then so be it, but be prepared for the hurt and problems that will probably happen.

Maybe you should reconsider and discuss with him a swinging relationship where you are both always present, even if you don't both participate.