 Re: new and already needing help
Just remember that it reasonable for you to feel miffed about anything…ANYTHING. How you handle it is what really matters. You can flip out (obviously you are not doing that), you can ignore it, or you can kindly tell him what you’re feeling/thinking.
Although I completely understand the issue of being sucked into an IM conversation, it doesn’t mean he has a license to ignore you. It’s understandable that he will be in his own little world when he is IM’ing someone he thinks he will be intimate with, but you two need to establish when he can be in that world, and when he needs to be aware enough to hold a conversation with you. I would say that this is NOT a sign of a huge problem as long as you two find a place where you are both happy about the situation.
If either person is uncomfortable with something, that person needs to step back and assess what they are feeling, then articulate it to the other person, and establish how to avoid or deal with that discomfort in the future. If your verbal communication is as strong as your written (very objective and direct), you two will do well.
Mr.
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